Candour not Diplomacy.

Candour means the quality of saying what you think openly and honestly.

Diplomacy is a skill in dealing with people in difficult situations without upsetting or offending them.

I am not against anyone of them but I feel being candid is better than being diplomatic. When you are candid, you do things frankly without sugarcoating your words but when you are diplomatic, you tend to tiptoe around the truth more often. You use your tact while talking, your heart does the processing instead of your mind. Although, I do not like tactless people but in applying tactics, you should be candid.

You should be of nonconformity than of sensitivity. You should be frank because when you tiptoe around the truth, you tend to tell lies too.

Before you approach any issue, you should realise that your diplomacy should be juxtaposed with your frankness so you wouldn’t end up hurting anyone and you wouldn’t tell lies.

Oladewa Laura.



  1. I think we should use both. Different situations might require a diplomatic approach and yet another candour.

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    1. oladewalaura says:

      Yeah. You’re right.

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  2. Bryan Wagner says:

    I believe in honest genuine communication. I think it’s important to first check and see if it’s the genuine self or my conditioned ego speaking. The genuine self is always aware of the need to be candid and yet caring about how I speak.
    Thank you for posting!

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    1. oladewalaura says:

      Thank you for your comment.

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  3. Temilola says:

    Candidness and diplomacy are both very important but each has its own time of use and we should be very careful when using both. Beautiful work Dewa👊🏿

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    1. oladewalaura says:

      Yes. They are both important. Thank you for your comment ❤


  4. Thank you for your post. I think both would apply depending on the situation but it is always important to be candid without sugarcoating .

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    1. oladewalaura says:

      Yes. You are right. It all depends on the situation.

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